I love Facebook and Twitter as much as I hate them. I used to have a Tumblr, before it was cool. I even dabbled into the world of Snapchat for a few days.
And it all seems kind of ridiculous to me. Don’t get me wrong, I am a frequent user of Twitter currently (@KatPoster -follow me) -and bad mouthing it completely or any other social network would be very hypocritical. I think social networking is great if used in a conscious manner. I love keeping in touch with friends and family, being able to openly share and promote my work and things I do with the people I care about. All of that is great and I love spreading positivity.
But when your friends start to message or tweet at you more than they even hit up your phone, and when some of your family members like your status more than they talk to you in person, things begin to seem artificial. In the past, I deleted my Facebook and Twitter multiple times. And I find that I am much happier when living without them. Call it personal preference, but do you remember what it’s like to go a day without checking your newsfeed? Updating your status? Tweeting what you had for lunch?
I wouldn’t say I was addicted to it. Although I did check my Facebook very often, when my account wasn’t active, I didn’t feel a need to reactivate it. It was out of sight and out of mind. And it is now yet again. Hopefully for good.
What frustrates me about social media isn’t the fact that websites like Facebook and Twitter exist or even that they are so popular. What really annoys me is how often people use it and what they use it for. And I am guilty of some of these things myself. But what is really bothersome to me is seeing my own friends and family immersed in their newsfeeds when I am trying to spend time with them. What makes what is on your screen more important than what I have to say? Isn’t that why you invited me to hang out with you? So we could communicate, not so I could sit there and watch you scroll through your phone?
I’m not stomping my feet asking for your full attention, but give me a break. I’m not the most interesting person in the world, but I think I’m a bit more important than that hot chick you’ve been messaging that you will probably never meet in real life. The reason why you revert to staring dumbfounded at your phone when you are driving with me instead of just embracing the otherwise occasional silence that we have in between talking is because of social networking. Don’t believe me? Here’s why:
Social media is an ongoing system that allows you to contribute your thoughts and ideas. It makes you FEEL included where you otherwise might not have been. It makes you THINK that there has to be something important going on at all times.
That’s complete bullshit. Instead of seeing life through your eyes, you choose to see other’s lives on a screen. And that’s why I deleted social media apps off my phone, and why I deleted my Facebook account.
So this isn’t a plea to boycott social media. Nor is this a demand for you to delete apps off your phone. This is a call for you to be more conscious of your decisions. Start embracing “awkward” silence and talking to your grandparents more instead of burying your mind into your newsfeed -even if it hurts a little. Remember, it is only awkward if you say it is. Start being more human and less like a zombie.